I understand that he is 4-years-old and he has a lot of questions about the world and how it works. I really don’t mind answering his questions or discussing at length, anything he’s interested in.
Lately however, his response to everything I ask him to do, or NOT to do is… “but why Mommy?” I used to indulge him with a response. Until it occurred to me that this was not a case of 4-year-old curiosity. It was a case of, “state your position so that I might crossexamine you and form my rebuttal.” I found that I was spending a large part of my day justifying my decisions to my preschool aged child.
The problem is that reason and logic are not always on my side. He immediately perceives this and begins chipping away at my defenses one question at a time. He will not relent until he has managed to get me to change my mind or at the very least admitted that my reasoning was flawed. Other people (a.k.a his father) find this to be so much more amusing that I do.
I’m sure that some day when he’s a Supreme Court Justice I will be so proud and say that it was all worth it, but for now I would be happy to never hear the words “..but why mom?” come out of his mouth again!
In spite of all this I do have one trump card. It is the only one I have; it is the one nature gave me… “Because I’m your mother AND I SAY SO!”